Embracing Relationships: A Journey of Self-Discovery

Feb 8, 2024

We’ve been on a profound journey recently, diving deep into the realms of Choice, Courage, and Clarity.

It’s been an illuminating path, and now, we’re pivoting to a topic equally vital but often veiled in mystery and misunderstanding: relationships, the ‘R’ word.

What Are You Seeking in a Relationship?

Let’s start with a reflective question: What are you looking for in a relationship? I want you to take a moment right now. Grab a pen and paper, and jot down your thoughts. What are you yearning for in your connections with others? This exercise isn’t just about listing desires but understanding your core needs and aspirations.

The Mirror of Relationships

In my coaching sessions, a common thread emerges: many people seek qualities in a partner that they haven’t nurtured within themselves. They say, “I want someone who does this for me,” or “My partner doesn’t meet my needs.” But here’s where I ask, “Where are you in all of this?”

Writing It Down, Making It Real

If this resonates with you, write down everything you want in a relationship. Let your imagination run wild. No thought is too silly or outlandish. Then, take a hard look at your list. Which of these are priorities for you? Highlight them and set them apart. Now, ask yourself the crucial question: Which of these qualities am I willing to cultivate in myself?

Being the Person You Want to Meet

Are you looking for someone who lives in abundance? Someone who’s always looking at the glass as half full, possesses a great sense of humor, or stands as a pillar of kindness and understanding? How many of these qualities do you embody? Are you willing to create an abundant life for yourself, find humor in challenging situations, and be kind and understanding?

You Complete You

This is where we roll up our sleeves and get real. It’s all about relationships this month, but not just any relationships – the one you have with yourself. You’ve got to get clear on what you’re asking for from others and ask if you’re willing to offer the same to yourself. Remember, nobody can complete you but you. That famous line, “You complete me,” is a line from a movie. In real life, you complete you.

The Relationship with Yourself

As we embark on this journey, ask yourself which of these qualities you’re genuinely willing to meet in yourself. If you hit a roadblock, remember I’m here to help. Which of these traits are you striving to embody more fully? That’s the crux of your primary relationship – your one with yourself.

Together, let’s discover the wonders of a life lived in congruence.

“It’s all about relationships this month, but not just any relationships – the one you have with yourself. You’ve got to get clear on what you’re asking for from others and ask if you’re willing to offer the same to yourself. Remember, nobody can complete you but you. That famous line, ‘You complete me,’ is just that – a line from a movie. In real life, you complete you.”

-Susan Lazar Hart-

Have a wonderful week filled with love and gratitude! Here’s to living a life you love. Big hugs,

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