I was talking with a client the other day, and she said something I hear often in different ways:
“Susan, I feel like I’ve hit a wall. I know there’s more to creating my life, but… I’m just not feeling it.”
And wow, I could feel the weight of that.
That in-between space where you’re no longer okay with how things are—but not quite moving toward what could be.
Ever been there?
That energy of:
- “I don’t feel like doing this.”
- “I don’t have the energy to engage.”
- “What’s the point?”
Here’s what I told her:
The more we respond in a certain way, the more we reinforce it.
Not feeling it becomes a habit. And habits? They become patterns.
But here’s the good news—patterns can be rewritten.
THE TRUTH ABOUT THE “I’M NOT FEELING IT” STATE
When we say “I’m just not feeling it,” we’re often actually feeling:
- Disconnected from our why
- Afraid of taking the wrong step
- Burned out from overgiving
- Or secretly doubting whether it’s okay to want more
Sound familiar?
And the key is not to judge yourself for being there…
but to get curious about what that feeling is pointing you toward.
4 TOOLS TO PIVOT With, WHEN YOU’RE “JUST NOT FEELING IT”
Here are a few powerful ways to gently shift the energy:
1. Interrupt the Pattern with One Tiny Action
Your brain is wired to repeat what’s familiar. So change the script.
Don’t wait to feel inspired—act to create the inspiration.
Try this:
Set a timer for 10 minutes and take one micro-action toward what you’ve been avoiding.
Start writing. Stretch. Make the call. Sort the drawer.
You’re not committing to the whole thing—just creating movement.
Because momentum breeds motivation. Not the other way around.
2. Shift the Question
Instead of asking, “Why don’t I feel like it?”—ask:
“What would help me feel more alive right now?”
Or:
“What’s one thing I can do with the energy I have?”
You’re giving your nervous system something it can say yes to.
And often, that little yes is enough to wake something up in you.
3. Reconnect with the Why Behind the Desire
When you’re not feeling it, you’ve likely disconnected from your why.
Take a breath and ask:
“If I really let myself believe it’s possible… what would I love to create?”
Then write:
“I’m so grateful that I now…” and finish the sentence as if it’s already happening.
You’re not pushing yourself—you’re remembering yourself.
4. Use the 5-Minute Energy Reset
I teach this in my coaching calls:
- 1 minute of stillness
- 1 minute of breath
- 1 minute of gratitude
- 1 minute of visioning
- 1 minute of choosing what matters today
It’s not about solving everything.
It’s about meeting yourself where you are—and gently turning the dial toward possibility.
You don’t have to wait until you feel ready.
You don’t have to push yourself through resistance.
But you do get to ask:
“If I were someone who believed in herself… what would I do next?”
Sometimes, the most radical act of self-love is not to force yourself to do more—
but to choose one tiny pivot that says, I’m still in the game.
Even when you’re not feeling it… you’re still worthy of showing up for yourself.
And if you want support with this—reach out.
This is what I do. This is what I love.
Helping women just like you move from “I’m stuck” to “I’m ready—one B.O.L.D. step at a time.”
