(When You’ve Been Abandoning Yourself Without Realizing It)
Self-trust doesn’t disappear in one dramatic moment.
It erodes quietly.
Every time you say yes when you mean no.
Every time you explain yourself to make someone else comfortable.
Every time you feel the tightening in your chest — and override it.
Most women I work with don’t lack intelligence.
They lack internal anchoring.
They’ve been trained to look outward before looking inward.
And over time, that habit dulls something essential.
So today, I want to give you five practical tools to begin rebuilding self-trust.
Not theory.
Practice.
5 Tools to Rebuild Self-Trust
1. Pause Before You Respond
Self-trust begins in the pause.
Instead of answering immediately, say:
“I need to think about that.”
“Let me sit with it.”
That small interruption tells your nervous system:
I matter enough to consider.
You don’t rebuild trust by becoming louder.
You rebuild it by slowing down.
2. Ask: What Do I Already Know?
Before you seek advice, pause.
What do I already know about this?
What feels aligned?
What feels forced?
You may not like the answer.
But honoring it builds internal authority.
3. Listen to the Body
Self-trust is physiological.
Tight jaw.
Shallow breath.
Clenched stomach.
Those are not random sensations.
They are information.
When you notice them, pause before you decide.
Your body often knows before your mind catches up.
4. Keep One Small Promise Daily
Trust is built through follow-through.
Choose one small commitment:
A walk.
Five minutes of journaling.
A boundary you hold.
It doesn’t need to be impressive.
It needs to be consistent.
Identity shifts through repetition.
5. Practice One Calm No
Self-trust strengthens when you allow your no to exist without apology.
Decline something small.
Without over-explaining.
Without softening it.
Let it be steady.
Notice how your body feels afterward.
That steadiness?
That’s self-trust returning.
The Truth
Self-trust isn’t dramatic.
It’s built in micro-decisions.
Over and over.
And when it strengthens, something shifts internally:
You stop drifting.
You stop polling the room.
You stop collapsing under pressure.
You become anchored.
If this is the muscle you’re ready to strengthen, Your Self Trust Challenge begins tomorrow.
This is where we practice.
The details are below.
And when you’re ready to practice this with support
Join me February 23-25 for Your Self-Trust Challenge — Choosing You.
Save your spot here: https://susanlazarhart.ca/your-self-trust-challenge
Not another mindset boost.
Not more information.
Clear steps to stop second-guessing and start choosing.
Three days of noticing where you override yourself.
Three days of choosing differently.
Three days of strengthening the most important relationship you have — the one with you.
Because confidence without self-trust doesn’t last.
But self-trust?
That changes everything.
That quiet yes inside you?
Follow it.
You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.
One bold step at a time.
