How can I build my confidence and why is it so important?
Self Confidence is an inside job!
It’s believing in ourselves. Feeling assured in our qualities and abilities. It’s what makes us resilient while benefiting our mental and emotional health.
When we’re confident, we can trust that even when things don’t go the way we expect, it gives us the strength to move forward and grow.
But when we lack self confidence, we end up second guessing ourselves.
Here are my three tips that you can implement daily to help you build your self confidence.
1. Ask Yourself
What brings YOU joy? Not what makes your partner, children, or family happy… but you! This isn’t about what everyone else wants, or what they’re doing or creating. Remember that comparison is the killer of confidence!
What is it you truly want to create? Go out 3 weeks, 3 months or 3 years from now, are you living a life you love?
Is it health, relationship, financial or business related? What do you want to create that will contribute to and make you celebrate a life you love?
Write down whatever thoughts immediately pop into your head and then pick one that is really close to your heart – that you sense will make a difference in your life once you achieve it.
If it feels overwhelming, then chunk it down into smaller doable pieces. Say for example that you want a million dollars. Take a deeper look and determine what it is that you would want to do with a million dollars.What would a million dollars create in your life? What does it look like? Then keep chunking it down to actionable pieces.
Pick something that’s attainable.
Then write down any “stoppable” thoughts. Those limiting beliefs that are preventing you from going after what you want.
Those thoughts often begin with:
• I can’t…
• It won’t…
• I haven’t…
• I never…
• They won’t let me…
Now ask yourself if any of those thoughts are true? Often, they are thoughts or beliefs that others have told us and unintentionally instilled in us over the years.
If they’re not true – then ask yourself what could you create? What are the results you’re after?
2. Visualize
Based on the answers you came up with, choose one action that is most achievable. The one that makes your heart sing.
Now I want you to relax, feet on the ground and close your eyes. Take a deep breath and see yourself achieving it.
Hold it close and see yourself accomplishing that action, capturing all the delicious details.
• What do you see?
• What do you smell?
• What do you taste?
• What do you hear?
• What are you saying?
• What are you thinking?
• What are you feeling?
Imagine what achieving that task would do and how it would change your world. Visualize every aspect, making it perfect in every way and imprint it in your mind.
While it’s fresh, write it down! Whether it’s a sticky note, a journal, or your phone – anywhere that you can refer back to and read it 3 or 4 times a day.
Each time you look at it, you’ll see yourself as if you have already created what it is you wanted.
When we repeat this action over and over, we can change the pattern from stoppable… to truly
possible!
3. Acknowledge
It’s important that we understand that everything is constantly changing. And that’s a good thing! It’s how we grow and evolve.
Be sure to acknowledge the future you, the new you with gratitude, celebration, and appreciation.
When we do that, we can actually program our brain. By noticing and recognizing all the happy proofs of our successes. Whether they’re big or small, it’s important that we acknowledge ALL that we have achieved.
When we follow these steps, we’ll not only train our brain, but build our self confidence. By believing in all that we can do, understanding all that we are capable of and the amazing things we can create – positive things happen.
How incredible is that?
Here’s to living a life you love that loves you back,
