Embrace the Power of Saying No: The Art of Stopping and Reflecting

Aug 3, 2023

Welcome, wonderful readers from all over the world! 

Today, we embark on a transformative journey together, exploring the art of stopping and the power of saying no. 

As your transformational mindset coach, mentor, speaker, and author, I believe in empowering you to take control of your life and create a better future for yourself. Let’s dive into the art of stopping, which is, in essence, the art of saying no.

The Imperative of Reflection:

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life. However, it’s essential to learn the art of reflection and take a pause. 

As one of my kids once advised me, we don’t always have to respond immediately. Whether it’s business-related or personal,  it’s important to take a moment and say, “I’ll get back to you.” 

This applies not just to others but also to ourselves. Now more than ever, we need to learn to pause and not feel pressured to have all the answers right away.

Introducing  your Stopping Strategy:

Embracing the art of stopping is not a one-time event but an ongoing practice. 

As we explore the transformative power of embracing vulnerability today, let’s also embrace the STOP practice, an acronym that stands for:

S: Stop. Whatever you’re doing, pause momentarily.

T: Take a breath. Re-connect with your breath. The breath is an anchor to the present moment.

O: Observe. Notice what is happening. What is happening inside you and outside of you? Where has your mind gone? What do you feel? What are you doing?

P: Proceed. Continue doing what you were doing. Or don’t: Use the information gained during this check-in to change course. Whatever you do, do it mindfully.

Occasionally reminding yourself to stop during your day can increase your awareness of what is happening around you and inside you.

Remember, you have the freedom to choose, and every moment of self-awareness is a step toward personal growth and empowerment. 

Incorporating stopping moments into our lives creates space for transformation and healing. 

By acknowledging what’s working and what’s not, we can create moments of pause essential for personal growth.

So, let’s commit to this empowering stopping strategy and continue our journey of “Doing The Inner Work” with courage, vulnerability, and authenticity.

Mindfulness and Intention:

We invite clarity and insight into our lives by implementing a stopping strategy. Being mindful of our choices enables us to live with intention, aligned with our values and desires.

Embrace the power of saying no and take control of your life. 

Remember, you have the freedom to choose your path and create the life you desire. Practice stopping, taking a breath, observing, and proceeding mindfully.

Celebrate your growth and achievements and express gratitude for your journey. Together, let’s manifest the life we want to live. Happy creating!

P.S. If you’d like to dive deeper into The Art of Stopping and how these strategies can improve your life,  I’d love to have a heartfelt conversation with you.

We must choose, with intention, what we say yes to and what we say no to. It all comes down to simplifying, prioritizing, and focusing our attention on what matters most.”

-Warren Buffett-

Have a wonderful week filled with love and gratitude! Here’s to living a life you love. Big hugs,


What Does It Really Mean to Be Bold?

What Does It Really Mean to Be Bold?

  For Women Ready to Break Free Beyond Midlife and Live Fully, On Their Terms Bold. It’s a word we hear a lot, but what does it really mean when you’re navigating midlife? Not the kind of boldness that’s loud or showy. I’m talking about the kind that feels like a...

What Happens When You Look in the Mirror and Say “I Love You”?

What Happens When You Look in the Mirror and Say “I Love You”?

There’s something tender, almost sacred, about a quiet Sunday. A day where the world slows down just enough for you to hear your own heart. And today, I want to invite you into a moment that might just shift everything. This week in our Over 50, Fabulous and Thriving...

What Happens When You Finally Say No?

What Happens When You Finally Say No?

There’s a kind of no that changes everything. Not the frantic, overwhelmed no that comes when we’re already stretched too thin. But the quiet, grounded no that comes from knowing yourself. From asking: Does this work for me? Does this feel aligned with the life I want...