How to Reconnect with What Truly Lights You Up
Let me ask you something:
What’s one thing that would light up your life right now?
Maybe it’s an achievement, an experience, a relationship — something you’ve been craving deep down. Take a moment and really think about it.
Now, here’s the deeper question:
When you thought of your answer, did you tune in to your heart’s desire… or did your mind jump straight to a to-do list, a goal, or something you think you should accomplish?
If you went straight to the “shoulds,” you’re not alone.
This is a perfect example of how conditioning shapes what we strive for — often leading us to chase achievements rather than connect with what truly matters from the inside out.
The Conditioning That Shapes Us
From the moment we arrive in this world, we’re taught to look outside ourselves for direction.
We hear things like:
“Do as I say.”
“Trust me — I’ll take care of it.”
And slowly, over time, we start believing that others know better than we do. We learn to silence our inner voice — that quiet, wise part of us that knows what feels right.
By the time we reach midlife, many of us realize we’ve spent decades chasing other people’s dreams or living by society’s expectations. And that’s when we begin to wonder:
What do I actually want?
Relearning How to Trust Yourself
If you’ve ever felt stuck or frustrated that change seems so hard, there are two things you need to know:
- You’re not alone.
- You can reconnect with your inner voice — at any age, at any stage.
The first step in creating a life you love is asking yourself this powerful question:
“Is this desire coming from my soul — from a deep, genuine place within me — or from what I’ve been told I should want?”
When your desires come from within, transformation happens naturally.
That’s what I call your internal motivator — the energy and presence that arises when you trust yourself and know that change is possible.
Internal vs. External Motivators
Here’s the challenge:
Society, culture, social media, religion, even well-meaning friends — they all have ideas about who you “should” be.
These influences create external motivators — the kind that push you to set goals that aren’t truly aligned with your heart.
And when we chase goals rooted in external motivators, one of two things usually happens:
- We reach the goal… and feel empty, because it wasn’t what we really wanted.
- Or we sabotage ourselves, because deep down, we’re not truly connected to it.
Sound familiar?
How to Break Free from Conditioning
True change begins with how you feel.
Close your eyes and think about what you’re longing for right now.
Instead of focusing on the achievement or outcome, tune into the feeling behind it.
✨ What feeling are you truly seeking?
Is it joy? Freedom? Peace? Connection?
That feeling is your compass — your guide back to your inner knowing.
When you learn to listen to that quiet voice within (not the noise of “shoulds” and “supposed tos”), you begin to design a life that feels deeply aligned with who you are.
A Gentle Invitation
If you’re ready to go deeper, I’ve created a free toolkit to help you reconnect with what’s truly possible for you. Inside, you’ll find an exercise designed to help you deprogram old conditioning and strengthen your connection with your inner wisdom.
👉 [Download the toolkit here] Transformational Tool Kit
Remember, you don’t have to have it all figured out right now.
Small, intentional steps create big, lasting change.
Trust Yourself
The life you want to create is within reach — and it all begins by trusting yourself.
Listen to that inner knowing.
Follow what lights you up.
And never forget — the world needs your light, your wisdom, and that special something only you can offer.
Here’s to living a life you love — boldly, joyfully, and fearlessly. 💫
You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.
One bold step at a time.
